Ask Laura
Q:
Can you be in love with more than one person at a time?
I'm married and had an affair. My husband has done a 180 working on himself and becoming an amazing person. I love this new person and feel I'm in love with him. Meanwhile, I'm still in love with my lover and miss him painfully. Is that possible?
A:
Swingers do the sex thing for fun and games every day. We learn the difference between love and sex. We don't tie sex to love. Love is a personal commitment to another person, not a thing to posses. Sex is an activity of touch and exciting sensations ending with a very happy "kablam". Like a roller coaster ride all you need is trust and something to hang on to. Multiple partners may be the answer for you and your husband. But, I think as long as you find it so easy to continue deceiving, lying, and cheating on your husband that you do not love him. Heck if he was doing that to you you would likely feel like he must hate you. Having sex on the side is okay if your "partner" is totally in the know and agrees.